Loyalty, wut

So, hey, there’s this thing I’ve been hearing from people about how us poly folks aren’t loyal. I get shit for it on campus, and I get shit from my so-called friends. I wasn’t aware that being able to love more than one person meant you couldn’t be loyal to any of ‘em. This idea that poly people can’t be loyal has always pissed me off. It’s a zero sum game, and it doesn’t work.

I am loyal to my friends. It’s exceptionally rare that I consider someone a true friend, and I can count the ones I have on one hand. Once you are my friend, though, I’ll fight to the end to protect you. Anyone who claims to know me, or claims to be my friend, would know this. I make no effort to hide it; my loyalty to friends runs deep.

I’m even more loyal to the people I love, also very rare. There is a woman that I love, completely, with all my heart. She knows who she is. She also knows that nothing could make me betray her. She knows that no matter what happens, or who comes along, or who I have a crush on, she’s always the one closest to my heart. She knows that if anyone ever had the stupidity to make it them or her, she wins, hands down.

I’m big on loyalty. I like it in friends, and I require it in loved ones. Just because I’m poly doesn’t mean I’m not loyal. Just because you’re mono doesn’t mean you’re loyal. Plenty of mono people cheat. Plenty of mono people lie. Being mono or poly, being Jewish or Buddhist or Christian or Muslim, being a politician or a lawyer or a farmer or anything else, has absolutely no impact on your loyalty. Only you, as a person, can choose to be loyal or disloyal.

It’s time that people did that really un-cool thing, and took responsibility for themselves. They need to stop thinking they can declare others as inferior because of superficial differences, and they need to stop judging others as if they themselves were flawless.